For Better or For Worst

Weddings…Bells…..Ceremonies …..Decorations…..Themes…..Rings….Gowns…
… MARRIAGE & Vows …….has been running wild in my mind lately.

Okay okay…if anyone of u are wondering…No…I’m Not getting married ….not me though but a good high school friend of mine is. Just got proposed! ON A BEACH!!! How Romantic!! Ahhhh… I’ve always thought that getting proposed on the beach is the most romantic thing ever…(ok my mind is so wandering off now)…Anyways..as much as I wish I’d be proposed to on the beach..let's just hope that my future other half will somehow stumble upon this blog post in future to know my heart's desires...LOL…

Well anyways…my intentions ain’t rambling bout me…more of sharing something from the heart.
Neways I’m helping this friend of mine plan for her wedding…Ohhh I just love weddings!! And somehow I’m always so touched during weddings, listening to the couple dedicating their vows to one another..so much so that I cry tears of joy…I tot the bride should be the one tearing not me…haha…Oh well God knows if I’m going to tear buckets of joy during the dedication of my own vows at my wedding…LOL..I cant wait to see…

And so all the planning and stuff just got me thinking so much bout the vows that we dedicate to out life partner and the whole idea of marriage itself….actually alot more but I just wanna blog bout marriage life and vows this time. Till more inspiration of thoughts comes into mind…I shall just blog bout these two.

What is marriage like life? Marriage, Like life – Even a life submitted to the will of the heavenly Father - carries no guarantees. Marriage, like life, brings unexpected and unpredictable events.

We all grow and change even after we say ‘I DO’. Don’t we? And…
Change usually isn’t easy, nor is it welcomed. Change doesn’t necessarily bring out the best in people… sometimes it brings out the worst, if only for a season. But even change for the worse can make you better – if you allow it… don’t you so agree too??

What does the vows really mean to you? To me, I think it’s such a wonderful thing. The best part of the wedding ceremony, I think isn’t how stunning the deco is, how glamorous the couple is, how many carot the diamond ring is etc…but the VOWS…because it comes(well it should) from the heart! And that is a life long promise that we are making to our life partner for eternity…till death do us part…for better or for worse….how lovely and touching that is…but how often do we actually ponder on every word in the vows and understand the meaning of it all? The weight of those words that brings responsibility & commitment, and it being the mark that seals the whole marriage. The power of the vows.

When you promise “For better or for worse,” we should know that we are anticipating the fact that change will come. It may appear in many different shapes and sizes and textures…you should expect that. To me, it’s like saying to your spouse… “Whatever comes, I will stand by you, support you, and offer you any assistance I can to help you through this journey called life. I will be with you in your good and tough times, too!. No matter what, I’ll be there for you.”

There are really no guarantees. Yea we pray and commit our marriage to God, but we too need to strive to have a good marriage. Do our part. I think the most important word to describe the journey through life together is the word ‘through’. Think about it this way, you can’t float above changes. You can’t fly away from dangers. You dare not go around the things you do not like..or is there anyone at all who loves doing the opposite of those?? Then just prepare to go through the worst. You will find that is the way to discover what better really means.

“FOR BETTER OR FOR WORST….”

If only young people nowadays will truly understand the meaning of getting into a relationship, MEANS the start of a journey heading towards marriage and there after a life long journey ‘through’ life together… And what the vows they ‘merely’ just repeat after because it’s ‘part’ of the ceremony means… And what the whole package of MARRIAGE they’ve got to receive and work ‘through’ together means….And not take ALL that as lightly, then there will many many successful marriages.

I pray that we wont take the one we love so dearly,  so much that we wanna make the decision to be with that
person for the rest of our lives, forgranted.
I pray that when we step into marriage and when we say our vows
we mean it from the bottom of our hearts, but not just merely a 'to do' list of the ceremony.

Great loves were almost always great tragedies,
Perhaps it was because love was never truly great
Until the element of sacrifice entered into it.
MARY ROBERTS RINEHART

Fair or foul -- on land or sea --
Come the wind or weather,
Best or worst, whate'er they be,
We shall share together.
WINTHROP MACKWORTH PRAED