The List
Folks I have loads to update I know. 1st off is the trip I went with my frens. The one I was super excited for. Yes yes...I still remember...
But that is not as important as this that's been in my mind lately.
I've started reading a book about marriage. About the intimate relationship that a couple share in marriage. It has totally opened up a whole new realm of the meaning of "marriage" to me. It's not just about 2 person saying "I do" and then live 'happily ever after forever' or rather that's what we idealistics hope for...Yes, it's till death do us part. There's more towards that than just those simple common lines that we always hear during a wedding ceremony.
I realised so much more than I already have, that we gals..ok or rather woman..haha...plays a VERY important part in a family. That's why mothers are celebrated so much. Not that the dad or the guy isnt important but the woman as a whole has so much more of a role than just a mother and a wife. Especially the role as a wife. Being a wife has so much to it than we can think of. We are what I would like to call the secret to a happy family. Truly we are. Because it's our personal actions and decisions and sacrifices we make for and towards the family that makes a happy and united family. We are the guardian of our families. The bridge even for the kids to the dad. There's so much I'm still yet to find words to descrive it.
However, the more I read this book. The more I'm inspired to be a blessing as a wife and a mother to my future family... Infact, it has confirmed that what I have been doing lately is right.
You see, we gals.. we All have a list!! D secret list!! Haha...basically just the list of criterias of the kind of guys we like...hmm... Lately I've been reminded that giving is better than receiving..a lesson that I myself is constantly learning. To be more generous in different ways...be it time or money or knowledge...etc..
So! I'm thinking, instead of just focusing on listing down the criterias of a guy we want. Have you ever thought of what you can offer your guy instead? Where's that list that states what we as gals can offer as a promise for ourselves to be a blessing to our future family? A list of personalities and character and maturity that we have for ourselves to grow towards and that the guy will see in us thru who we build ourselves to become. For him to know you are worth all the love that he can pour out. As much as we gals wants security and you know how our mother's often teach us that the guy should be the one pouring more into the relationship than the gal? So that we gals dont get hurt?? I wont say I dont agree with that statement.. But not entirely. It'll be selfish to think that way entire. Guys are humans too. God didnt create them for us to treat as cows.(err ok God knows why cow came into my mind!! LOL!!) He created both male and female to support each other. God said "Husband submit to your wife and wife too need to submit to your husband" He didnt say husband should submit to wife more than wife do"! Make sense??
That all just got me listing down the list I can offer, and continue building myself toward that ultimate goal to being successful in one of my primary mission on earth. Besides the great commission, it's also to be a good and enjoyable companion to my future partner and mother, to my future kids. Having said all the above..I'm not putting us gals down and say guy can over rule us now. I'd say it should be the same for guys. Instead of just looking and always checking gals out if they fit the 'ultimate' physical appearance on ya list. Why not safe some time and list down what you as a guy can offer the gal that may give them security of your leadership. Dont forget that God made the guys to be leaders of their family. Not just 'chick' watching your whole life. You do have a mission btw, if you do not already know. LOL...=P
Gals! Happy listing.. Well that's all I have in mind for now.. I'll prolly conitnue another time should I have more to share... hmm ladies..we can prolly share our list here...maybe..*wink*
But that is not as important as this that's been in my mind lately.
I've started reading a book about marriage. About the intimate relationship that a couple share in marriage. It has totally opened up a whole new realm of the meaning of "marriage" to me. It's not just about 2 person saying "I do" and then live 'happily ever after forever' or rather that's what we idealistics hope for...Yes, it's till death do us part. There's more towards that than just those simple common lines that we always hear during a wedding ceremony.
I realised so much more than I already have, that we gals..ok or rather woman..haha...plays a VERY important part in a family. That's why mothers are celebrated so much. Not that the dad or the guy isnt important but the woman as a whole has so much more of a role than just a mother and a wife. Especially the role as a wife. Being a wife has so much to it than we can think of. We are what I would like to call the secret to a happy family. Truly we are. Because it's our personal actions and decisions and sacrifices we make for and towards the family that makes a happy and united family. We are the guardian of our families. The bridge even for the kids to the dad. There's so much I'm still yet to find words to descrive it.
However, the more I read this book. The more I'm inspired to be a blessing as a wife and a mother to my future family... Infact, it has confirmed that what I have been doing lately is right.
You see, we gals.. we All have a list!! D secret list!! Haha...basically just the list of criterias of the kind of guys we like...hmm... Lately I've been reminded that giving is better than receiving..a lesson that I myself is constantly learning. To be more generous in different ways...be it time or money or knowledge...etc..
So! I'm thinking, instead of just focusing on listing down the criterias of a guy we want. Have you ever thought of what you can offer your guy instead? Where's that list that states what we as gals can offer as a promise for ourselves to be a blessing to our future family? A list of personalities and character and maturity that we have for ourselves to grow towards and that the guy will see in us thru who we build ourselves to become. For him to know you are worth all the love that he can pour out. As much as we gals wants security and you know how our mother's often teach us that the guy should be the one pouring more into the relationship than the gal? So that we gals dont get hurt?? I wont say I dont agree with that statement.. But not entirely. It'll be selfish to think that way entire. Guys are humans too. God didnt create them for us to treat as cows.(err ok God knows why cow came into my mind!! LOL!!) He created both male and female to support each other. God said "Husband submit to your wife and wife too need to submit to your husband" He didnt say husband should submit to wife more than wife do"! Make sense??
That all just got me listing down the list I can offer, and continue building myself toward that ultimate goal to being successful in one of my primary mission on earth. Besides the great commission, it's also to be a good and enjoyable companion to my future partner and mother, to my future kids. Having said all the above..I'm not putting us gals down and say guy can over rule us now. I'd say it should be the same for guys. Instead of just looking and always checking gals out if they fit the 'ultimate' physical appearance on ya list. Why not safe some time and list down what you as a guy can offer the gal that may give them security of your leadership. Dont forget that God made the guys to be leaders of their family. Not just 'chick' watching your whole life. You do have a mission btw, if you do not already know. LOL...=P
Gals! Happy listing.. Well that's all I have in mind for now.. I'll prolly conitnue another time should I have more to share... hmm ladies..we can prolly share our list here...maybe..*wink*
posted by Rachs at
4:47 PM
3 Comments:
sometimes i feel guys nowadays dont deserve these from us.
ps- i might be in a bias "mode" while commenting. lol
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hihi anonymous!
hmm..I'm wondering if I know u..haha..I'm super curious now!
Well babe, I do agree that some guys dont deserve anything lar. However it's not bout what they do and do not deserve. It's bout us playin our individual role.
If just because we feel they dont deserve it and thus not preparing ourselves for it, we are only short changing ourselves..our value and worth..=)
Tt's js my 2 cents worth! Hugs..
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